Posted by: TheMajlis

The Qur’aan Majeed orders men: “And live with them (women) honourably.” Undoubtedly, Allah Ta’ala has given man a higher status over woman. The Qur’aan Majeed says: “And for men over them is a rank.” , and, “Men are the rulers of women…”

Due to ignorance and lack of moral reformation, husbands usually abuse the superiority which Allah Ta’ala has bestowed to them. Instead of applying their superiority correctly to fulfil the rights of wives, husbands taking unlawful advantage of their rank, abuse the rights of their wives and make inordinate demands, not only for fulfilment of their own rights, but also for the assumed rights of others such as in-laws.

ABUSES The very first abuse committed by husbands is total indifference with regard to the moral and ta’leemi welfare of their wives, The Qur’aan imposes this duty as an incumbent obligation on husbands. Many wives are compelled to slave for their in-laws. The right of the wife to separate and private living quarters is denied.

Husbands become entangled in extra-marital affairs, soiling their eyes, minds and bodies with acts of moral turpitude while they expect total and perfect purity, chastity and modesty from their wives. Remember! When you cast lascivious eyes on another man’s wife, someone will do the same to your wife. When a man casts lustful eyes on another woman, he should immediately contemplate on his wife and ask himself: How will I feel if my wife casts evil eyes on another man?

Some husbands are exceptionally miserly. Despite having more than adequate money, their hearts are too constricted to spend lavishly on their wives. Lavish spending should not be confused with waste and spending on haraam.

Many husbands have exceedingly vile tongues and foul tempers. Which are reserved for their wives. They acquit themselves with cowardice by venting their tongues and tempers on their defenceless and weak womenfolk while they are constrained to act like sheep when a confrontation develops outside the home.

The honourable husband is instructed by the Shariah to be tolerant of the indiscretion of his wife. Allah Ta’ala has created her from the crooked rib of man. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said that if an attempt is made to entirely straighten the rib, it will break. In other words, the marriage will break up. Wives are an Amaanat (Trust), custody of which men have taken in the Name of Allah Ta’ala. A full and detailed account will be demanded for this Amaanat.